BY: LIZ HARDIE
He misses out on seeing his child grow, watching her become the great person she is today
This is his choice when he made his child less important than everything else in his life
He misses out on milestones, birthday parties, celebrations, sporting events, first dates
With or without him, she is strong and determined, destined to do amazing things in her life
He thinks people talk negatively about him to her; he takes no fault in his actions
Failing to realize that she is spoken to about contacting him, yet she makes her own decisions
His words and actions can be disgusting, putting her down instead of lifting her up
Words cut like a knife; when he does make promises, he rarely follows through, or he has conditions
He always said that he wanted a better life for her and to be a better father than the one who raised him
That may have sounded good, but that takes work, effort, patience, love, support, and personal growth
He used fear tactics to manipulate, would not tolerate mistakes, and teased and mocked her
It was only a matter of time before she could see through him, his actions she would loathe
When raising his child, he needed to pay attention, support, listen, care, and love unconditionally
His child should have never come in second place to anything or anyone in this world
She has a closer connection to her mother, and it is not that she put a target on his back
He refuses to admit that her mother is emotionally attached and is a constant for the little girl
Parents need to remember that just as we teach our children, there are consequences for actions
Choosing to become a parent is putting your child’s needs first, understanding and loving your child
Parents must make sacrifices daily, putting their wants and needs on the back burner
When she was old enough to realize his priorities, her own opinions about him were compiled
He never took the time to find out who his daughter truly is, and there is a lack of emotional attachment
She is smart, resilient, respectful, caring, loving, creative, open-minded, sarcastic, intelligent, and kind
It takes time and understanding to learn about her, but once you dig deep, you see who she truly is
She is hurt, and her reasons for not speaking to him are valid, not malicious or contrived
The little girl is the victim in this, and if someone says otherwise, they just want sympathy
Watching a little girl live through this is very hard, as she is the one who is misunderstood
All she wanted was to be loved for who she was, not to be ignored and used for his convenience
He misses out, but she gets stronger and embraces who she is, working through the pain she has endured